Its all about relationship


I recently chanced upon a video clip from Youtube and that kept me thinking for a while. The video is about a university lecturer addressing his students. It was a science lecture and he was telling them that the basis of everything, or to be more specific the basis of life is relationship. Everything on this planet earth is all about relationship; one thing links to another. The mysterious thing about life is how all these things are interconnected and how, to a large extend, can’t do without each other. He explained that when God created the universe, He first created the physical elements that support life, such as light and heat, water and the air. These elements are then interconnected and eventually giving breath to other life-forms, such as plants, vegetations, living creatures and finally humans. After He created man, He found that it is not good for him to be alone, therefore He created a companion for him, the woman. There, humans are again interconnected through various kinds of relationships. When the man and woman fell from grace, this first relationship and the whole interconnectedness of things in the world changed.

Although shared from a biblical perspective, I find this whole idea of interconnectedness very mesmerising. The fact is we are more connected than we are divided. We need each other more than the fact that we are separated. And perhaps, we are more similar than the differences we thought we have.

Some years ago, I went through a very dark period of my life and I decided to cut myself off from the people around me. I did not physically isolate myself from them, but what I was going through greatly affected my relationships with them. I felt disconnected and life was very miserable. I went away for a period of time and started traveling from Thailand to Vietnam, Malaysia and eventually to Bhutan. In Bhutan, I found a very different kind of connection. I was connected back to nature, back to the mountains and back to the valleys. I was connected back to the living streams that gave life to the trees in the forests and the creatures that inhabit the ground.

In Bhutan, I was surrounded everyday by the Himalayan mountains and everyday I walked through the woods and passed through the rivers and streams. Each step I took and each breath I breathed in, I was making renewed connection with creations and rediscovering the lost connection. It was when I reconnected myself with nature’s energy, I realised how small and tiny I was in all of these networks of life; this vast interconnectedness that we are all living in. My Bhutanese guide often told me that Bhutanese do not see themselves as superior to nature, neither do they see themselves as inferior. They see themselves as all part of nature: the trees in the forests, the rocks in the field, the fish in the streams,  the creatures roaming in the woods and the humans that inhabit the ground, all are part of this whole networks of life and breath. We all breathe in the same breath and received heat from the same Sun and enjoy the coolness of the same moon.

When I came back from my retreat in Bhutan, the first thing I wanted to do was to restore my relationships with my family and friends. With the renewed relationships, I set to make things in order, set the wrong right all over again and slowly build up my strength to face the challenges of life all over again. We never have to live in defeat and despondence if we understand how interconnected we are and how we can draw strength from one another.

Chang, from Bangkok


穿梭两个城市的人 – 爱@曼谷




我不相信 “旅行”!

我只相信 “生活”。





我敢爱,敢拥抱, 敢梦想!

















我只相信 “生活”。



Cafe Hopper and Poem: Danger…Danger…

There’s danger everywhere!
They are hidden in the home
In your dark closets in your room
You don’t always see them
But they are always looking out for you
They will catch you unawared
And blow your mind off when they hit you

The fear of them lead us to
A constant need for security
Signs put up, to warn and
To keep out.
“Back off, danger ahead”
That’s what they are saying.
You better watch out…
That is what mummy is warning.

Danger seen and unseen
What grip us most
Is things that we seeth not
They corner you to the dark wall
Making your pores
Arrested by frozen cold
In the lonely silent night
You can cry and none heareth

We can run and we can flee
But we can’t hide
Danger comes and danger goes
We lift our chests and brave the storm
“We’ll be stronger” saith the wise.
Often be…our courage take flight
When danger strikes again…
Look straight and say “Hi”

Last day of 2014, poetry written at Starbucks.


Cafe Hopper and Poem: Narrative, 27/12/2014

Lying on my cosy bed
Watching the raindrops
Falling on my window
My mind flashing back
With lots of memories
Some are hauntingly creepy
Some are fond memories
Of love and passion

We remember our memories
Not because we can’t let go
We remember them because
We have the courage to face them
Memories give us a history
A history for us to recollect
A narrative for us to tell
The story to ourselves

The raindrops keep falling
And my mind keeps dripping
The songs keep playing
Telling me stories after another
I don’t have a nice story to tell
But my narrative is nothing less
Of what flesh and blood constitute
Perhaps, you have a story tonight?

Cafe Hopper – Poet@Cafe

I have composed some proses and poems during my sit around at various cafés… Decided to share my poems here as well!

Imagine Distance

I am standing from a far
Wondering what you are thinking
But somehow I feel the nearness too
I suppose distance is relative…
It is an imagination.
I imagine distance…
I imagine nearness…
I imagine you.

Composed 10/8/2014