过年咯!🧧

先和大家拜个年:祝愿大家新年快乐,身体健康,万事如意!

这一次的回家过年看是简单不过对我来说意义还是很重大的。也不知道从几时开始,我都很珍惜每一次能跟家人一起过年的机会。年轻的时候,会很理所当然,不过随着年龄增长,我越来越觉得,一个家可以非常和谐,非常和睦的好好过年是一件很不容易的事情。

我这个家庭也经历了不少事情。这两年来在这个家里的某些成员也在他们的个个生命的领域经历不少的风风雨雨。我自己也不例外。不过,很多时候人就是要经过什么大风大雨才会学着坚强不屈,冒着风雨也要直奔到下一个避风港。如果生命里少了天摇地动,我们也不懂的体会风平浪静的境界。

这一两年来,在工作里认识了一位三十多岁的一位同事。起初认识他的时候,他人也不大爱说些什么,不过认识和工作久了,他也慢慢的跟我多说了他私人的事情。我也慢慢的比较了解他。但是,他这人啊,还是很年轻。虽然工作上得到上司的重用与信任,就常常得罪同事,同事们也常常误解他。我有时就常常劝他,做事情嘛,点到为止就好,有时我们做人不一定要是赢的那一位。他一直都无法体会和了解我跟他说的这番话,总觉得,我真的能这么cool的过生活吗?

后来,在工作上,他与上司和一些领导人发生了一些大问题,还开了个调解会议。我自己也在那会议里。经过了这些事后,他才领悟到了我一直跟他说的话。最近还非常感激我教会了他很多处事待人的道理。

其实嘛,我也不是什么达人,只是人生中经历不少事情也让我领悟到了一些小道理。如果我没有经历过我所经历过的事情,我也没有可能是现在的我。我现在对生活的要求简单得多了。我不需要 Marie Kondo 来教我要丢弃什么什么的。其实,过人生就是那么的简单。该来都会,该去的都会去。命里有时终须有,命里无时莫强求。我们都不是什么大人物。只要好好把基本做好来,让自己开心一点,给自己和心爱的人多一点欢乐,那就好咯!

好吧!再一次祝愿大家在新的一年里,天官赐福,欢欢喜喜,开开心心!

阿福

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Its all about relationship

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I recently chanced upon a video clip from Youtube and that kept me thinking for a while. The video is about a university lecturer addressing his students. It was a science lecture and he was telling them that the basis of everything, or to be more specific the basis of life is relationship. Everything on this planet earth is all about relationship; one thing links to another. The mysterious thing about life is how all these things are interconnected and how, to a large extend, can’t do without each other. He explained that when God created the universe, He first created the physical elements that support life, such as light and heat, water and the air. These elements are then interconnected and eventually giving breath to other life-forms, such as plants, vegetations, living creatures and finally humans. After He created man, He found that it is not good for him to be alone, therefore He created a companion for him, the woman. There, humans are again interconnected through various kinds of relationships. When the man and woman fell from grace, this first relationship and the whole interconnectedness of things in the world changed.

Although shared from a biblical perspective, I find this whole idea of interconnectedness very mesmerising. The fact is we are more connected than we are divided. We need each other more than the fact that we are separated. And perhaps, we are more similar than the differences we thought we have.

Some years ago, I went through a very dark period of my life and I decided to cut myself off from the people around me. I did not physically isolate myself from them, but what I was going through greatly affected my relationships with them. I felt disconnected and life was very miserable. I went away for a period of time and started traveling from Thailand to Vietnam, Malaysia and eventually to Bhutan. In Bhutan, I found a very different kind of connection. I was connected back to nature, back to the mountains and back to the valleys. I was connected back to the living streams that gave life to the trees in the forests and the creatures that inhabit the ground.

In Bhutan, I was surrounded everyday by the Himalayan mountains and everyday I walked through the woods and passed through the rivers and streams. Each step I took and each breath I breathed in, I was making renewed connection with creations and rediscovering the lost connection. It was when I reconnected myself with nature’s energy, I realised how small and tiny I was in all of these networks of life; this vast interconnectedness that we are all living in. My Bhutanese guide often told me that Bhutanese do not see themselves as superior to nature, neither do they see themselves as inferior. They see themselves as all part of nature: the trees in the forests, the rocks in the field, the fish in the streams,  the creatures roaming in the woods and the humans that inhabit the ground, all are part of this whole networks of life and breath. We all breathe in the same breath and received heat from the same Sun and enjoy the coolness of the same moon.

When I came back from my retreat in Bhutan, the first thing I wanted to do was to restore my relationships with my family and friends. With the renewed relationships, I set to make things in order, set the wrong right all over again and slowly build up my strength to face the challenges of life all over again. We never have to live in defeat and despondence if we understand how interconnected we are and how we can draw strength from one another.

Chang, from Bangkok

穿梭两个城市的人 – 爱@曼谷

  

我是一个穿梭两个城市的人。

我不是一个旅人。

我不相信 “旅行”!

我只相信 “生活”。

每当我从一个城市,穿梭

到另一个城市,我的心,

也从理智穿梭到不理智!

在这另一个城市里,

我敢爱,敢拥抱, 敢梦想!

我有一股说不清楚的勇气!

在这另一个城市,

我常做出我在那个城市,

没勇气做的事!

在那个城市,

我从来不会

去爱,去拥抱,去梦想!

或许,在那个城市,它,

容不下我的放肆与任性!

它,不允许我执迷而不悔!

或许,在另一个城市,它,

拥有包容还有接受!

它,允许我在迷失中能找到方向。

我不讨厌那个城市,

也不完全拥抱另一个城市!

我不是一个旅人!

我只相信 “生活”。

我是一个生活而穿梭在

两个城市的人!

Cafe Hopper and Poem: Danger…Danger…

Danger…Danger…
There’s danger everywhere!
They are hidden in the home
In your dark closets in your room
You don’t always see them
But they are always looking out for you
They will catch you unawared
And blow your mind off when they hit you

The fear of them lead us to
A constant need for security
Signs put up, to warn and
To keep out.
“Back off, danger ahead”
That’s what they are saying.
You better watch out…
That is what mummy is warning.

Danger seen and unseen
What grip us most
Is things that we seeth not
They corner you to the dark wall
Making your pores
Arrested by frozen cold
In the lonely silent night
You can cry and none heareth

We can run and we can flee
But we can’t hide
Danger comes and danger goes
We lift our chests and brave the storm
“We’ll be stronger” saith the wise.
Often be…our courage take flight
When danger strikes again…
Look straight and say “Hi”

Last day of 2014, poetry written at Starbucks.

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Cafe Hopper and Poem: Narrative, 27/12/2014

Lying on my cosy bed
Watching the raindrops
Falling on my window
My mind flashing back
With lots of memories
Some are hauntingly creepy
Some are fond memories
Of love and passion

We remember our memories
Not because we can’t let go
We remember them because
We have the courage to face them
Memories give us a history
A history for us to recollect
A narrative for us to tell
The story to ourselves

The raindrops keep falling
And my mind keeps dripping
The songs keep playing
Telling me stories after another
I don’t have a nice story to tell
But my narrative is nothing less
Of what flesh and blood constitute
Perhaps, you have a story tonight?

Cafe Hopper – Poet@Cafe

I have composed some proses and poems during my sit around at various cafés… Decided to share my poems here as well!

Imagine Distance

I am standing from a far
Wondering what you are thinking
But somehow I feel the nearness too
I suppose distance is relative…
It is an imagination.
I imagine distance…
I imagine nearness…
I imagine you.

Composed 10/8/2014

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